Code, conflict, and conduct

I think and feel this comes from intentions... And will fail.

1.) "Laundry lists". -- The culture of today, in general and especially in tech, is all about skirting and avoiding the spirit while conforming to the letter. Disruption is the core value, above all others.

2.) As I've followed this and other intertwined issues, I've noticed things that might be explored but somehow aren't, and in not being explored I suspect some fundamental issues are being missed that apply in far more general ways:

In an article published today in The Atlantic, this jumped out in the section on Megan Squire and is fascinating for this one comment:

Squire told me that she found few examples of gender bias. “He is an equal-opportunity
abuser,” she said. Squire added, though, that for non-male programmers the hostility and
public humiliation is more isolating.

And that raises a question that so far I've never see raised, considered and obviously not answered.

Same abuse, but a radically more/different effect... Why?

The nearest answer I've seen is "it just is". There is an additional question to be raised:

Is it really male vs non-male or was that the only divide tested? If so, why?

I think until these are addressed, there will be continuing issues and excessive conflicts.